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When someone tells you that they’re not sure if they want to move forward with marriage or engagement, it can be a difficult conversation to have. It’s important to remember that this statement doesn’t necessarily mean the end of your relationship. It simply means that the person needs some time to evaluate if they are ready for that level of commitment. Here are some tips on how to respond to this statement, along with some example sentences you can use to reply.

Listen actively. When someone tells you that they’re not sure about moving forward with marriage or engagement, it’s important to listen to what they have to say. Repeat back to them what you heard and ask for clarification if you need it. Saying something like

I understand that you’re feeling uncertain about moving forward with marriage/engagement. Can you tell me more about what’s been causing that uncertainty?

Validate their feelings. Even if you don’t agree with what they’re saying, it’s important to validate their feelings. Let them know that you understand where they’re coming from and that you support them in their journey. Saying something like

I understand that you need time to think about this and I support you in that.

Communicate openly and honestly. To address the uncertainty, it’s important to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings, needs, and concerns. Share your thoughts and feelings without blame or criticism. Saying something like

I understand that you’re feeling uncertain about moving forward with marriage/engagement, and I want to talk about how we can move forward together.

Suggest solutions. Once you’ve discussed the problem, it’s important to come up with solutions together. Suggest activities or changes that you can make to improve your relationship. Saying something like

I know this is a big decision, but maybe we can schedule regular check-ins to talk about our feelings and progress.

Be open to different options. Be open to different options that may arise during the conversation, such as taking a break, postponing the marriage/engagement, or finding a way to make the relationship work in the short-term.

Don’t rush. Remember that marriage and engagement are big decisions and shouldn’t be rushed. Give the person space and time to think about what they truly want.

Address any underlying issues. If the person is unsure about moving forward with marriage/engagement, there may be underlying issues in the relationship that need to be addressed. It’s important to have an open and honest conversation about these issues and try to work through them together.

Seek counseling. If you’re having trouble navigating this conversation, consider seeking counseling to help you both work through your feelings and come up with a plan.

Be respectful of their decision. Remember that the decision to move forward with marriage or engagement is a personal one and ultimately, it’s up to the person. Be respectful of their decision, even if it’s not the one you were hoping for.

Don’t give up hope. Remember, this statement doesn’t necessarily mean the end of the relationship. With open communication, understanding and respect, it is possible to work through this uncertainty and find a way forward together.

It’s important to remember that marriage and engagement are big decisions and shouldn ‘t be rushed. When someone tells you that they’re not sure if they want to move forward with marriage or engagement, it’s important to listen, validate their feelings, communicate openly and honestly, suggest solutions, be open to different options, don’t rush, address any underlying issues, seek counseling, be respectful of their decision, and don’t give up hope. With patience, understanding and respect, it is possible to work through this uncertainty and find a way forward together. It’s important to have an open and honest conversation about the issue, and to address any underlying issues that may be causing the uncertainty. Remember that marriage and engagement are big decisions, and ultimately it’s up to the person to decide what they want. Seek counseling if you need help to navigate through the conversation, and always be respectful of the other person’s decision.

Be kind ❤