What to say when they ask to "talk about us" over text

When someone asks to talk about us over text, it can be a daunting task to navigate the conversation. You want to be honest, but you also don’t want to get caught up in a text messaging cycle of emotions. So, how do you handle it? Here are some strategies and example sentences to help you find the right words to say.

First, take a deep breath and acknowledge their request. You can respond with:

Hey, I appreciate you wanting to talk about us. Can we schedule a call instead of texting about it? I want to make sure we can have a thoughtful conversation.

I’m happy to talk about us, but can we do it over the phone? I think it’s harder to miscommunicate when we can talk through things.

By suggesting a call, you’re showing that you’re committed to having a meaningful conversation, but you’re also setting boundaries to avoid a lengthy text exchange.

If you do decide to continue the conversation over text, try to keep your responses brief and to the point. Avoid getting too caught up in the back-and-forth, as it can lead to misinterpretation and unnecessary drama. Instead, try to stick to the main issue at hand. For example:

I think we need to focus on what’s not working for us. Can you tell me what you think the main issue is?

I appreciate your perspective, but I think we’re looking at this from different angles. Can you help me understand where you’re coming from?

It’s also important to be clear about your feelings and needs. Don’t be afraid to express your thoughts and emotions, but try to do so in a non-accusatory way. For example:

I feel unheard when you don’t respond to my messages. Can we find a way to communicate that works for both of us?

I need some space to think about us right now. Can we touch base in a few days when I’ve had some time to reflect?

Remember, texting can be a breeding ground for miscommunication, so try to avoid being too cryptic or passive-aggressive. Instead, aim for clarity and honesty, even if it’s difficult.

If the conversation is becoming too emotional or heated, it’s okay to take a step back and suggest revisiting the conversation when you’re both feeling calmer. You can say:

I think we’re both getting worked up. Can we take a break and come back to this conversation when we’re both feeling more level-headed?

I appreciate your passion, but I’m feeling overwhelmed. Can we revisit this conversation when we’re both in a better headspace?

Ultimately, the goal is to have a productive and respectful conversation, even if it’s difficult. By staying calm, being honest, and setting boundaries, you can navigate the talk about us conversation with ease.

In conclusion, remember that effective communication is key to any successful relationship. By being mindful of your words and tone, you can turn a potentially difficult conversation into a meaningful and constructive one. So take a deep breath, be honest, and remember that clarity is always the best policy.

Closing thought: Communication is like a dance – it takes two people working together in harmony to create something beautiful. So, take the lead and guide the conversation with kindness, empathy, and honesty. The rest will follow.

Be kind ❤