Handling those awkward social invitations can be a delicate matter. You don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, but you also don’t want to commit to an event that doesn’t exactly thrill you. So, what do you say when someone asks you to be their plus one and you’re just not interested?

First of all, it’s essential to acknowledge their invitation and express gratitude for thinking of you. A simple thank you so much for inviting me or

I appreciate you thinking of me for this

can go a long way in showing that you value their friendship or acquaintance.

Next, you need to let them down gently. This is where things can get tricky. You don’t want to give them false hope or lead them on, but you also don’t want to be too blunt or harsh. Here are some example sentences that might help you navigate this situation:

I’m not really feeling up for a big event like that right now, but thanks again for thinking of me.

I’ve got a lot on my plate right now, and I don’t think I’ll be able to make it.

I’m trying to keep a low profile for a bit, so I don’t think I’ll be able to attend.

I appreciate the invite, but I don’t think that’s really my scene.

I’ve got some personal stuff I need to take care of, so I won’t be able to make it to the event.

Notice how these responses acknowledge their invitation, express gratitude, and then provide a gentle letdown? That’s the key to handling these situations with tact and finesse.

Now, what if the person persists or asks why you can’t make it? This is where you need to be firm but still polite. You can say something like:

I understand why you’re excited about the event, but I really need to prioritize my own stuff right now.

I appreciate your enthusiasm, but I’m just not feeling up for it.

I know it might seem like fun, but I’m really not comfortable with big crowds/social events like that.

Remember, it’s okay to say no to an invitation. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, but providing a gentle letdown can help maintain a positive relationship.

Finally, if the person continues to push or guilt trip you into attending, it’s essential to stand firm and reiterate your decision. You can say something like:

I understand that you’re disappointed, but I’ve made up my mind. I hope you understand.

I appreciate your persistence, but my answer is still no. I hope you can respect that.

I know you’re excited about the event, but I’m just not going to be able to make it. Let’s catch up soon, though!

In conclusion, handling an unwanted plus one invitation requires empathy, tact, and firmness. By acknowledging their invitation, expressing gratitude, and providing a gentle letdown, you can maintain a positive relationship while still prioritizing your own needs and desires. So the next time someone asks you to be their plus one and you’re just not interested, take a deep breath, be kind, and say no with confidence.

Be kind ❤