How to respond when a friend criticizes others for not using iMessage
Understanding the motive
Before you jump in, think why your friend is upset. Maybe they miss features like read receipts or bubble effects. Knowing the reason helps you pick a reply that feels fair and calm.
Use empathy first
Showing that you hear their feeling often defuses tension.
I hear you feel annoyed when people don’t use iMessage.
It sounds like you miss the quick replies that iMessage offers.
After you acknowledge, you can add a gentle perspective.
Offer a neutral fact
Giving a simple fact can shift the focus from blame to information.
Most phones support iMessage, but not everyone has an Apple device.
Android users get RCS, which works similarly to iMessage.
Explain personal preference
Your friend may think the choice is selfish. Remind them that texting style is personal.
Everyone chooses a platform that fits their phone and budget.
Some people prefer cross‑platform apps because they talk to many friends.
Suggest a compromise
If the goal is smoother chats, propose an easy middle ground.
How about we start a group chat on WhatsApp for mixed phones?
Maybe we could use iMessage when all members have Apple, then switch if needed.
Use humor lightly
A little joke can lower the heat without dismissing concerns.
I guess I’m stuck in the stone age with SMS too!
Looks like iMessage fans need a secret handshake.
Give a short apology if needed
Even if you didn’t cause the problem, a brief “sorry” can calm things.
Sorry if my comment made you feel judged.
Sorry for any frustration this conversation caused.
Keep the tone friendly
Avoid sounding like a lecture. Use “we” and “us” instead of “you”.
We all want smooth chats, so let’s find a way that works.
Our group could try both apps and see which feels easier.
Sample reply flow
- Acknowledge feeling
- Share a fact
- Offer a compromise
Example in practice
Friend: “Why do people keep ignoring iMessage? It’s the best!”
You:
I get why you’re annoyed, iMessage does have neat bubbles.
Not everyone can switch, some have Android phones.
What if we use iMessage when possible and fall back to WhatsApp for others?
Social media style quick replies
I hear you, iMessage is handy.
Many use Android, so SMS happens.
Let’s try a mixed‑platform group.
Remember body language matters even in text
Using emojis sparingly can show you’re being friendly, not confrontational.
😊 I get the point, let’s keep it easy for everyone.
👍 Sounds good, I’ll try the group chat idea.
Dealing with repeat criticism
If the friend keeps pushing the same point, stay calm and restate your stance.
I understand the preference, but we all have different phones.
I respect iMessage, yet I need a solution that works for the whole crew.
Final tip
End each exchange with a positive note. A simple “Thanks for sharing” leaves the door open for future chats without lingering tension.
Thanks for bringing this up, let’s keep the convo friendly.
Appreciate your honesty, looking forward to smoother texting.
By listening, sharing facts, and suggesting a middle ground, you can turn a criticism about iMessage into a constructive talk that keeps friendships strong.
Be kind ❤
