Why the mock hurts
When a friend jokes about not having iMessage, it can feel like a cheap shot. The comment may make the other person feel left out or embarrassed. You want to keep the chat light while showing respect for the friend who does not use iMessage.

How to respond calmly
‑ Take a breath before you type.
‑ Acknowledge the joke without feeding it.
‑ Offer a friendly alternative that includes everyone.

I get the joke, but let’s keep it friendly for everyone.

We all use different apps, no need to tease.

If the mock continues, you can set a gentle boundary.
‑ Say that teasing about tech is not fun.
‑ Remind the group that each person picks what works for them.

Tech talk can be fun, but let’s not single anyone out.

I prefer keeping the vibe positive, so no more digs about iMessage.

Examples of good replies
Here are sentences you can copy‑paste or adapt. Use them when you need a quick comeback that stays kind.

I enjoy texting on my phone, iMessage or not.

We all have different choices, that’s okay.

Sounds like a good time, regardless of the app.

If you want to flip the humor, try a light‑hearted jab that includes yourself.

I’m still waiting for my iMessage upgrade, so I’m safe.

My carrier says I’m stuck with SMS, so I’m neutral.

Guess I’ll be the one who can’t send read receipts.

When the conversation drifts back to the joke, steer it toward a common topic.

Speaking of phones, did you see the new camera feature?

By the way, anyone up for a game night this weekend?

I heard a cool podcast about texting habits, want the link?

Tips for keeping chat friendly

‑ Use “we” instead of “you” to show solidarity.
‑ Keep replies short and clear.
‑ Add a smiley or emoji if the platform allows it.
‑ Change the subject if the joke repeats.

Let’s talk about the movie we all want to see.

I’m curious about your favorite playlist, share it?

Who’s up for a group call later?

I love how we can all stay in touch, no matter the app.

Thanks for the laugh, but let’s keep it kind.

I’m happy to chat here, iMessage or not.

Your point is funny, but I think we can skip the tease.

I prefer a chill vibe, so let’s drop the tech jokes.

We’re all friends, let’s act like it.

If you need help setting up another app, I can help.

I’m fine with any app, just enjoy the talk.

Your humor is good, but let’s keep it inclusive.

I don’t mind which app we use, as long as we talk.

We could try a group chat that works for everyone.

I’m happy to send a voice note instead.

Final thought
Choosing the right words helps keep the group close and avoids hurt feelings. By replying with respect and a dash of humor, you protect your friend’s pride and keep the texting flow smooth. Keep it short, stay kind, and enjoy the chat.

Be kind ❤